Limiting Beliefs

Ever thought to yourself how you think you can’t do something? 

It’d be a surprise if you haven’t actually. 

There are a lot of situations both big and small where you think you’re incapable of doing something.

It may be as little and you trying to throw a rolled up paper inside a bin or you starting a new business. 

How do you know how far you’ll go if you haven’t even take the first step? 👣 

I’m apparently neurotic, so I constantly worry about the things I might have done in a social setting or even worse, I worry about the things I might do while talking which will make me look bad.

But for the last 2-3 years (from Sept 14th, 2019 to be exact) I started working on this fault of mine. 

I wouldn’t exactly call it a fault, but rather a hindrance that I’d like to jump over. 🏃After all, you should be able to notice your flaws in order to rectify them. 

Anyways, I started going out to social events like stand up shows, open mics, music events etc., and through that I got a ton of exposure to the social world. 

The way I’d strike up a conversation is, I’d make the other person strike up a conversation! 

Yes! Lol! Listen to me.

As you can see, I can draw somewhat well. So I take my sketchbook along with me for those events and start live sketching people and the place. Which I sucked at first, but slowly improved.

People would see me sketch and they would get intrigued by what I was drawing, They would sit next to me and look at me while I draw (trust me, artists don't like this a lot, but I started to grow into it). 

They would make a comment on the drawing or just say 'That's so good' which will be the conversation starter. And through that we’d get to know about each other and I would have a fun time meeting people. 

And now after these couple of years. I’m happy to say that I’m a LOT better at conversations than I was 3 years ago, thanks to putting myself out there. (And yes, I got a looooong way to go 🪜) 

I was convinced that since I’m an introvert I wouldn’t be able to talk with people normally in a social setting. And that limiting belief held me back in meeting people a lot of times. 

But now, I have matured in a way that helps me balance between how to talk when put in a social situation (mostly) and how to spend time by myself. 

So, whatever it is that is holding you back and limiting you, go beyond.

The only way to break a limiting belief is through going past the limit. 

I’m cheering for you :)

Best,

Kapil.