You Have NO Enemies

People can be petty.

They go behind your back, they can unwittingly do your wrong, they can sometimes intentionally cause you problems.

There is this trend on Instagram and the whole ‘meme culture’ about going into the “villain arc” where something bad is done to someone and they discard everyone and focus only on their self improvement by going to the gym and stuff, which is amazing! 🎉

But at some point, you need to let go of your resentment of the person and realise that they are the way they are. It shouldn’t affect who you are. Carrying that resentment in your heart can hold you back. (and you should improve yourself just for the sake of it in the first place).

People have their inhibitions and they are the main characters of their own lives. To them, anybody else is a supporting character (just like how you are the main character of your life). 🤷‍♂️

I’ve been struggling with this for a while. The resentment, the disappointment, the anger, the frustration makes me feel enraged sometimes. But at some point in the last few weeks, I’ve been really appreciating the stoic mindset, which endorses,

Control what you can control. Don’t focus or brood over things that are out of your control (like other people, world events etc.)

Stoicism has a bad rap due to it supposedly being “Unemotional” whereas it just says, you can feel the emotions you are feeling, but what are you gonna do about it? are you gonna let those feelings keep you down, or are you gonna learn to rise above it❓

Similarly, if you are trying to control what other people do to you, do for you, or did to you, you will always be in this endless cycle of confusion, resentment and madness. 😡

Instead, just….Let it go.

Don’t wish for a “Haha, I got you back!” or “You deserved it” scenario in your head.

It takes away from who you are and drags you into a dark place. And you genuinely don’t want to be in that part of the mind. 🧠

I like this saying very much, even from when I was in middle school;

‘Forgive, don’t forget’

I took it as forgiving people for what they did, only benefits you positively when it comes to your mental state. It is hard. It is very hard depending on what happened. You should meditate on it for some time.

But when you let go of it, It will feel like a heavy luggage that you’ve been carrying for a long time has been dropped off. The lightness you will feel in your heart is bliss. 😌

Not forgetting it means, don’t put yourself in a place where someone can do that to you again.

Focus only, and ONLY on what the right thing to do is and what you can control.

Phew, this was a heavy subject for me.

I think I should become a philosopher rather than an artist lol.

Go on and live a good week.

Best,

Kapil.